Thursday, September 15, 2011
Where's the Effort?
Women often complain about receiving bland, one line messages from men on their online dating accounts. Having seen enough examples of these shown to me by female friends and others I know, I'm inclined to believe that said complaints are justified. Perhaps what some of you out there don't know is that men, too, experience the same thing. Probably not as often, given the imbalance in first contacts, but still it happens to us.
Here are two recent examples from my own profile.
This first one is responding to the top ten list I added for some humor in the profile.
"Does #4 mean u still have a tattoo on your chest?
That was the message. Cute, eh?
Here's another even less specific one.
"I like your profile so I thought I'd say "hello" :)"
Well, hello to you too.
Anyway, I think it's fairly obvious how uninspiring these kinds of e-mails are. The last one doesn't even ask me a question about my profile to respond to. Just as men who write things like "hey sexy" and "what's up?" don't inspire people to respond back, neither do cutesy one liners from women.
Even having a single relevant question, or speaking about a few shared interests, usually is all that's needed. And really, it doesn't take that long to do that. If all you can muster is a bland or cutesy one liner, you're probably better off not sending anything. That's how I see it anyway.