Friday, August 26, 2011

A Little Secret About Being Single



I'll let you in on a little secret: it doesn't matter really if you are single or partnered. It really doesn't.

You might think your life depends on finding that special someone. You might wake up in the middle of the night after a nightmare about growing old in your house full of cats. You might wake up from the dream embrace of some hot someone and shout "Damn!" at the top of your lungs, waking your neighbors again. You might find yourself having heart palpitations or choking fits after seeing the fiftieth lovey-dovey couple walking down the street past you. You might have read studies that suggest single people are "less healthy" than partnered folks, or that single people live shorter lives, and think your doomed. You might ...

And that's the point. It's goes on and on like this, as long as you let it. The best partnered people tend to be people who are also great at being alone. Being themselves alone. Enjoying themselves as they are.

There's your pep talk for the week, single folks! Now get out there and be fine with your bad self. By yourself. And just maybe, all that shine and positive energy will draw that special someone right to you.

5 comments:

  1. Wow Nathan. Where did this come from?

    "The best partnered people tend to be people who are also great at being alone." Based on a sample of one, maybe two people I agree with you. But the point is, my sample is too small to generalize.

    Remember all partnered people were once single and live with the possibility that they too will be single again.

    Have a good week :)

    Rosemary

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  2. "Remember all partnered people were once single and live with the possibility that they too will be single again."

    That's basically my point. If you can't do being single well, then it's hard to do being partnered well.

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  3. Good one Nathan. It's amazing how long it takes some intelligent people to figure this out. :)

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  4. Hahaha I love it, I've totally every single thing on your list, house-full-of-cats-visions and all! You're so right though, if someone's not happy/high functioning while single, that won't change when they get into a relationship. I'm learning to just enjoy being single and savor the things I can do now that I couldn't in a relationship. It's not so bad :) Great post!

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  5. "The best partnered people tend to be people who are also great at being alone." - I couldn't agree more.

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