Saturday, July 16, 2011
Online Dating E-mail Scenerio
The other day, I received an e-mail from a woman who saw my online profile. She saw that I was a yoga practitioner and doing a yoga teacher training, and decided to write me. It was nice to be contacted by a woman, given that I probably am the one sending out first messages 90% of the time.
Anyway, I went to her profile and noticed we didn't have a lot in common. However, since she didn't actually write a lot, I figured it would be worth seeing where a conversation might go anyway. In the past, I have ended up dating women who initially hadn't written much about themselves, but upon talking with them, we found there plenty to talk about.
So, I wrote her back, asking her a few questions based on what I did read about her. A day later, I received a two sentence reply about how she loves "hot yoga" and thinks I should try it. Nothing else. No questions for me about my profile, nor anything else I had written.
Now, the way I see it, if you don't have any questions to as someone after a single e-mail, it's probably not a good sign. Maybe she's just looking for an e-mail buddy to chat about yoga with. Maybe she decided my response wasn't what she wanted to hear, and just offered that reply as a way to close the conversation. Or maybe it's something else entirely.
In any event, I'm letting it go. This has happened before to conversations I have initiated as well. A few messages sent back and forth, and then the questions stop coming, and the answers become more clipped and forced, as if the person on the other end is just trying to be nice, or perhaps is dating others and doesn't want to lead you on, but can't quite let go.
Have you had experiences like this? What did you do?